James 1:19-20 “ My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, 20 because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.”
1. Defer! Don’t Destroy:
Philippians 4:1-3 “Therefore, my brothers, whom I love and long for, my joy and crown, stand firm thus in the Lord, my beloved. I entreat Euodia and I entreat Syntyche to agree in the Lord. 3 Yes, I ask you also, true companion, help these women, who have labored side by side with me in the gospel together with Clement and the rest of my fellow workers, whose names are in the book of life.”
Romans 12:18 “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”
2. Pray! Don’t Panic.
Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice. 5 Let your reasonableness be known to everyone. The Lord is at hand; 6 do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. 7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Four-step process to deescalate conflict:
A. Take time to rejoice in God,
B. Slow my response
C. Take the issue to God in prayer and fasting
D. Wait for the peace of God
3. Think! Stop Reacting:
Philippians 4:8-9 “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. 9 What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.
The sign of spiritual maturity is the amount of time we take before we respond to something that is negative or offensive.
Proverbs 14:17 “A man of quick temper acts foolishly, and a man of evil devices is hated.”
Proverbs 16:32 “Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.”
Proverbs 29:20 “Do you see a man who is hasty in his words? There is more hope for a fool than for him.”
3 Steps To Deal With Someone Who Makes You Angry:
A. Get some space.
B. Think about the consequences of reacting harshly.
C. Come back to the situation with a plan.
- Take a moment and think about someone with whom you disagree or have a conflict.
- Have you done something wrong to contributing to that conflict?
- How are you trusting the Lord to resolve it?